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A Little Less Hate. A Little More Love.

Hello to the special reader of this post! We are wishing you the best as we write this post on letting yourself grow and rise this Spring and going forward! As humans we tend to overthink and stress on things in our lives that we may not have control over. This Spring we are asking you guys to maybe try taking a new approach to your endeavors and your spiritual pursuits. Challenge yourself to fall in love with you again and allow yourself the opportunity to let your best out. Try to face the challenges that unfortunately dim your light with a new grace and finesse. Rise above all the darkest corners of your mind that tell you that you are not worthy enough when deep down you can feel your power.

For some people the joys of life seem dim especially as of late. We beat ourselves up for failures and failed promises that we made to ourselves and let that determine how we treat and view ourselves in this world where there seems to be a need for perfection. We ignore our best moments and continue to pick at our own souls by referencing our worst selves to further tattoo the emotion of “undeserving” perpetuate the things we hate the most. But what if we changed? What if you let yourself allow for the love you asked for to enter, the job you wanted, the car you look at with hope?

Challenge yourself to speak about your highlights, we make mistakes, we fail, we get angry but that is all part of this life! The thrill that we seek lives beyond the fears we create in our minds. Would approaching that stranger at the bar be as exciting if you always knew you would get the number? The unknown is where the magic happens and the only thing stopping you is the fear of what others think. Your perception of their perception is the fear we live in and we deserve to release ourselves from self-hate and scrutiny but to look at life with hope and a purpose. Do the things you love and watch others love it in return.

Don’t Compromise!

Compromise is what we do when we do something out of character for approval a group. In society we have been taught that we must compromise in order for to get through some things. Yes, compromise is necessary when it comes to conversation and relationships (platonic and romantic). But compromise is not necessary when we compromise ourselves and act in a manner that put other people in a poor position. One of our main slogans at Soulside Skincare is “Don’t Compromise”. That is not only for our customer but for us as well

When we say “Don’t Compromise” we are telling you guys, our family, not to shop with companies that have unethical behavior. To not settle for products that are lower value because they are “convenient”. It is for you to not compromise and buy from a brand that may not be cruelty free or natural. It also means for you to buy for a company that genuinely cares about them and does not just see you as a piggy bank they can exploit. We pride ourselves on being a company that cares about our customers because there are not many of us left. We understand that there is no Soulside Skincare family without you guys and we are genuinely grateful.

“Don’t Compromise” means something different to us. We use it as a way to remind us of our values. It is for us to not compromise ourselves as people and to become just another company that doesn’t give a damn about their customers. They are just milking them. We want to be human first, business second. We have all heard the saying “its business not personal.” But we disagree with that statement wholeheartedly. How could it not be personal if we are all humans first. We will always make our decision for humans first. We want to provide a safe space for you guys. Being online we face challenges but hopefully provide you with an intimate and personal experience to the best of our capability. With that said if you do not know them already our values are humanity, quality, self-love, environmentally conscious, and fight against hate. It is important that you know them as well so that you can hold us accountable if we are falling behind or lacking in an area. We want to be held accountable if we are not keeping our promise not only by ourselves but by our family. It wouldn’t be much of a family if we did not give up that power.

If you would like to know more about what our values entail, please check out our values page or feel free to direct message us on Instagram, message our chat box, or email us as we are always available for a chat. As always stay blessed.

The Balancing Act

With the world at it’s current state and the after effects of quarantine beginning to unravel, we as a society have an obligation to assist others. During the beginning of quarantine, we saw a huge influx of people seeking answers to questions that they may not have had before. The realization of a general lack of self-care or not knowing how to properly care for yourself can be daunting. However, the need to help others comes from within and that burning desire to leave an impact on the world is what we need in order to help each other during these times.

Self-care has become a common term used amongst population as more and more information on how to properly care for yourself continue to flood the internet and social media world. This push for self-improvement might just be what society needs in order to rebuild our own mental strength but may also bring unnecessary stress if not careful. The pressures of the world can be enough to leave people feeling inferior or not worthy of giving themselves the love in which they need to help others but the truth is that you are more than deserving.

If we widen the microscope and look at this idea from a slightly more esoteric perspective than it is easier to understand that as humans, we are all equal and are deserving simply because we exist. You are no different than the person next to you yet somehow you might have convinced yourself that you deserve less. I am hear to tell you that that is not true and most of your journey towards true self-improvement is saying it to yourself that you are deserving until you longer doubt it. The balancing act of helping yourself and others is to put your own growth first and help others in your improved state. A healing soul sharing advice and life experience to another healing soul can only help it grow, however with that being said a wounded spirit can hinder the spirit of person trying to evolve and improve.

I ask you to challenge yourself going forward as we reach the halfway point of 2020 and to seek more personal knowledge. Discomfort is the symptom right before change and the best way to change is through new experiences and objectives. Set a few new goals for yourself, both mental and physical. Continue to learn more about yourself and share your experiences with friends in order to enrich their lives as well. The constant need to discourage ourselves as motivation is a dated practice and setting new healthier objectives can be more beneficial to one’s vibration. Remember the idea that it is a push and pull effect and the healthier your spirit, the healthier the energy.

Fight Against Hate

An illness is a disease or period of sickness affecting the body or mind. If you look up the most common illnesses you will probably see things like headaches, stomach aches, colds, and allergies but nowhere really talks about the worst common illness, hate. Hate spreads just like other illnesses and affects the mind even worst. Hate is what makes it scary for a black person to be stopped by the police for any reason. Hate is what makes Arab people sitting in an airport minding their own business uncomfortable. Hate is what makes it so hard for members of the LGBTQ+ community come out and tell people. No one is born with this illness, it is taught. which is why we must fight to teach a new. A way to treat people with compassion.

American author Gail Sheehy once said “If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.” Change will never come in comfort. As a society we have to push each other out of our comfort zones. We have to help others see things with an open mind. We also have to be ready to see things with an open mind. All too often we get frustrated when people don’t see our way. Then we give up on explaining our side or we get hostile while explaining it. We cannot expect change to come this way. Just like we learn our partners love languages, we must learn how to communicate with certain individuals if we ever want to get through to them. You may see it as a waste of time or energy. That you cannot change the world by changing this one person’s opinion but that is where you wrong. If we all do our part that one person can change the mind of someone close to them, then that person changes someone else’s mind and the cycle starts. It all comes from those extra steps. Not only must we have those uncomfortable conversations with others but we must take ourselves out of our bubbles to start those conversations.

This fight against hate is not an easy battle but it is a necessary one. We must not fight to make hate hidden, we must fight to rid hatred from people’s heart and minds. You are probably thinking what can I do? First, you can try to help someone around you, with a viewpoint based from hatred, see the other side of things. Do not belittle them, educate them on the situation. Second, get out in public with groups. Whether it is attending a protest or going to a parade, there is strength in numbers. Third, you can stand up when you see this hate or discrimination happening, even if it is not to you. Help your fellow neighbor and let them know that they aren’t alone in this fight and show the other side that we will no longer fold to them. Again, we know This fight is not easy but never doubt what committed group of citizens can do. They can surely change the world.

Symptom of the Unknown: Laziness

As the paradigm of life begins to shift, I think there will be people approaching a new life journey of mastering their mind. One of the most difficult life challenges is creating a better self-image of yourself. We as a society have evolved in scientific and medical creations but have lost sight of the power of self-improvement. Many people go about their days burdened with unpursued dreams, negative self-talk, and expectations that others including parents may have placed over their shoulders. A yearn for change will bring up many personal questions but one most important of all, the difference between being lazy and uninspired in one’s life.

No pressure placed by anyone can be greater than the pressure placed on ourselves but with that being said what stops us from moving? When I say moving, I mean more so in the pursuit of our passions and everything we aspire to be. Often times we are quick to base it off of one vague word known as laziness to blanket over the myriad of emotions that stops people from chasing their dreams however the new question is where does it come from? What new age mental coaches have begun to ask is how to move people out of the fear state and into the abundant mindset. It has been determined that there is now a distinct correlation between fear and laziness, however with a few small changes we can begin to create a new reality for ourselves and the power and confidence to change our lives.

Laziness is the unwillingness to pursue goals, tasks, or new projects in terms of the current “comfort” in which our mental state currently resides in. Fear often times manifests itself unwanted energy and thought processes that hinder us from doing what it is that we love. Fear of failure, fear of unreached expectations, and fear of success are among the most common. Laziness is when you convince yourself that the fear of starting and never achieving is less valuable than ever igniting that dream in the first place. The self-dismantlement of one’s own spirit by negative self-talk to remind us of the false notion that our dream is unattainable. From the never wanting to hear the detrimental “I told you so” line to the heartbreak of never reaching your desired end goal can be discouraging.

There is however an end to all the mental madness. By priming ourselves with self-betterment tools and habits we can take the driver’s seat to changing our lives in whichever way we may choose to do so. Inspiration starts with the willingness to work on one’s self. It is understanding the idea that the more we begin to look and heal from within the more mental clarity and guidance we will have to bring us to all of our manifestations. We can give ourselves the permission to heal from the plagues of our past and look towards a new life by changing our perspective of how we view ourselves. Begin by telling yourself that you deserve it all and that you are absolutely worthy. Long are the days of the old you and welcome your hidden potential. Let go of those in the past who hurt you and focus simply on what you can do now to push you towards your dreams. Ask yourself questions such as “what do I like?” or “what would the better version of me look like?” Open ended questions about yourself will open new doors to new life creations. Remember the healthier and positive the questions you ask yourself are, the more abundant the answers will be.